June 2014

In Honor of Our Little One

It was May 1st when Laurence and I learned about the pregnancy through a home test kit. We were looking discreetly at each other from time to time with winks and smirks and some pinching here and there. I felt so happy, excited, overwhelmed and the I-can’t-believe-it-is-still-possible feeling. I was scared to be pregnant because of my lower back problem that has been a struggle since I gave birth to Michelle more than a decade ago. I used two brands and did three tests in two days to make sure I was not dreaming.

When my husband and I went to an OB Gyn two weeks after my home test, we saw the most exciting ultrasound ever. Seeing the little bean inside my womb flickering with a 129 bpm, I can’t hide my smile. I am really confirmed pregnant and that was the happiest feeling.

For more than two weeks we kept silent about the news of our baby to our two kids. We want to break the news after the final confirmation and show them the ultrasound video. It was hard to tell Michelle since she wants to be the youngest in the family and the idea of having another baby would break her heart. She was teary eyed upon learning of the great news. She was hiding her emotions but later on accepted the idea of welcoming a baby. After that she was the most excited person in the house to welcome our baby which was due January 6, 2014. So that night we celebrated over dinner at Haiku Teppanyaki in Pacific Beach.

I had a somewhat difficult but manageable first trimester in the sense that I can’t prepare food for my family. My olfactory receptors are very much on the loose and actively working, telling me to hide when someone’s cooking. Even the cutest of spring flowers from afar can’t hide it’s smell from me. Bad and good smells are the same for me. I can’t even tolerate the scent of hand soap. The food that I love eating before would be unpleasant for me but noodles of any kind seemed irresistible.

Everyday we would talk about the baby. I would envision my baby to be very active like Dash in the movie The Incredibles. I know that baby would be so active and we’re excited no matter what. We talked about situations where the baby would get all of Adrian’s airplanes and Michelle’s teddy bears and scatter them all around the house. I would imagine the baby getting any pen or marker and doodle in our white leather sofa. I see the baby would be interested in plucking the strings of guitars, violins and ukuleles and play some notes in the piano. I visualize the baby would be amused by the noise the plays that Finn and Cake (our parakeets) would make. Even in the craziest possible scenario, I love the idea of having a little baby here around us and we are prepared and ready to embrace the crazy world of raising him or her. I can’t imagine if I would be able to be as disciplinarian as before. Many times I would talk to myself about the possibility of myself pampering the baby and let my husband be the one doing the “rod thing”.  But that’s just a thought, I know that we should be the one to discipline our kids and not let them like Eli in the Bible who didn’t restrain his children when needed be. We know that as God entrusts a child to our care, there’s a lot of responsibilities and we are ready for that.

My thoughts would go as far as my third baby would be playing either a cello or piano. I know very well that kuya Ad and ate Mich would influence our baby. We will home school the baby early and Michelle was so excited to think about it.

Wherever we go I start looking for a baby proof place. In church, we imagine our first few years sitting on the mother-infant friendly seats. I began looking for changing tables at every restrooms in restaurants and shopping areas we frequent. Wherever we shop, we always look around for baby items.

Every Monday my two kids would accompany me walking around the block to have a simple exercise and at the same time celebrating the baby’s weekly growth. But on the 12th week, something unexpected happen… and I could not continue to write until now.

Exactly a year ago, I had bleeding that led me to an emergency room of Scripps Mary Birch Hospital. I had the most emotionally and physically painful event in my life. The pain was so intense to the point of passing out. I was given a narcotics-type of pain reliever that caused me severe nausea and headache. I lost the baby, that was the most dreadful thing.

Healing is a long process and still ongoing. With a great support from my family, friends and even people I don’t know and the Lord’s healing, I was able to overcome grief. It was such a difficult time for me last year but I was consoled by the dream I had before the miscarriage. In my dream I saw my baby. Face to face with an adorable baby with very expressive smiling eyes, he introduced himself as Luke. Weird, right? How can a baby talk without opening his mouth and introduce himself. Anyway, Luke told me that he is okay and that I don’t have to worry about him. Then I woke up. I was happy that morning and I told everyone I saw the baby’s handsome face but something in me felt that there’s something wrong. I just ignored it and realized it later on.

I was comforted by God. He let me realize that it was not my fault and I still have two more children to care for. I have to move on coz I’m alive, as the lyrics of the song by MercyMe below says:

I’m alive
Even though a part of me has died
You take my heart and breathe it back to life
I fall into Your arms open wide
When the hurt and the healer collide

It’s been a year. Everything was by the grace of God at work specially in times of grief. No more flood of tears just tear drops.

 

LaDainian Tomlinson 5K 2014

As early as March, it was decided (by me) that my boys will run 5k this June. Supporting the San Diego Chargers players’ individual foundation, I ran the Philip Rivers 5k before. Now, it’s LaDainian Tomlinson 5k, this time it’s my husband’s turn plus Adrian. I registered them early via Living Social (yes, there’s coupon). It’s Adrian’s 2nd 5k this year so hopefully we will get to convince Mich next time to run too. This 5k run held at Point Loma, San Diego has given support to several children’s charities under The Tomlinson’s Touching Lives Foundation.

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Trial run by father and son just for picture (above) purposes since we arrived before 7AM to pick up their bibs and packets. Adrian’s bright neon color attire was a smart idea helping me to spot him easily. Below, Adrian sprinted and beat these two guys at the finish line. His time was 27:35.

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The night before the race, I was preparing in case Laurence backs out. Looking at him (below), he had a blast! Feels great to finish your first 5k. Next time, we will do 10k, then hopefully half marathon.

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They’re not top finishers. It’s just that every finisher gets a medal. Haha! At least daddy has a souvenir of his first 5k run. He is not a sporty type of person so it’s really a breakthrough.

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 Here, the photographers were having a grand time after a yummy breakfast at Panera, selfie time!

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 Going home, we dropped by Manila Sunset Grill and feasted on Filipino food. Yay!

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Ad’s Promotion Day

adpromotionWay to go Champ-o-Rado! Congratulations to our resident genius! We are so glad that you’ve finished your middle school with excellent grades. Your teachers’ comments/feedbacks gave us assurance that you’ll achieve more in the coming years. It was an easy transition for you from being home schooled to mingling with many kids in a traditional school. Though I missed the times that we pray for our nation weekly, I know that you’re continuously doing it on a personal basis. If only I could home school you and Mich forever.

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It’s a privilege for our kids to have been educated in this school where people are excellent and always ready to serve. It was so funny to see the assistant principal (guy on the right) wearing shorts, sando and rubber shoes while arranging the stage prior to the ceremony. It only shows that position doesn’t matter. What matters is how a person can do something without thinking of who he is in his field.

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This part of California is dominated by Asians, as a proof, here are the asian boys in 8th grade class. I don’t know if these are Adrian’s  Starbucks buddies but I know they’re some of his friends. There’s a nearby Starbucks in middle school so that’s their favorite hangout every Thursday.

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We celebrated over a super late lunch / early dinner with his favorite sister in the world. And his sister made sure that she enjoyed all the food coz she said she had ice cream for lunch in school. Sorry about the pic Ad, the photos of our lunch are all food except this one.

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 Red Lobster June 2014

photo credit: Brown Photography (first photo)

Happy Father’s Day

dad in build a bear Dear Daddy,

Thank you for all that you have done for me. You have supported me in many things, even if it’s like I just want to go to the pool. I realized that you do so many things for us, and you work so hard. I can’t concentrate on things like you do. You are always there to help me. With homework. It can be so confusing. You really do a lot for me, like carrying me from the couch to my bed, holding my new teddy in the picture above, blowdrying my hair last night that Kuya said you did, playing with Poochie while making it look funny, and when we used to live in Fox Creek, I fell asleep in the car and you and Mom brought me inside, brushed my teeth while i was asleep, then put me on the top bunk of the bed. That’s right, I remembered that. Somehow… Anyways, I know that you aren’t a big fan of cooking, but I remember when you used to make bacon-wrapped jalapenos. I never like the jalapenos, but I did like the bacon! Speaking of “cooking”, when will you make more crepes? Those were sooo good! Anyways, I love you, and Happy Father’s Day!! 😀

Love, Michelle

Thank you dad! You are most supportive and loving. I know that you always try your best to help us and provide for us. Whenever you talk to me or Mich, you always try to make it as easy to understand for us. I remember all the time we spent doing things like fishing, rc flying, road trips, swimming, hiking and more. I am really happy that you are my dad. I’ll never forget the amount of work you do to provide for us. I also will never forget your support for our interests, even when they don’t exactly interest you. You are a really hard worker too, always reminding us and yourself to do the best we can in whatever were doing. Thank you for helping us in whatever we do and blessing us with the things that we want but don’t need. Happy Father’s Day! I love you.

-Adrian

IMG_0371picture taken May 2005 (Manila Bay)

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June 2014 Gyukaku, Scripps Ranch

Honoring Our Mother

If there are treasures on earth that are so abundant yet so priceless, they are what we call mothers. My mother in-law was an example of a simple person who has an extraordinary mothering skills like that of a mother hen. Her inner strength enabled their family surpass the tests of family life. She may not be healthy all the time but she had a strong sense of care for her family. I’ve seen her qualities through the years and I admire her for that. She may not be perfect as nobody is perfect but the skills of motherhood is overflowing in her life. She devoted herself taking care of her family until the very end, a noble task that many mothers can’t do nowadays.

nanay1I have vivid memories of her when we went back to Manila two years ago. I’ve seen how happy and content she was being reunited with all of her children and grandchildren. The picture that left an imprint in my mind was when I saw her watching a television show with satisfaction and laughing her heart out alone while everyone was in the living room during her 59th birthday celebration. It was so nice to see a person happy even if we just had a simple celebration.

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Multiple complications from diabetes and kidney malfunction took her away from us last week. It was a battle of more than a month in the hospital. But God was in the midst of it all. Truly, God’s sufficient grace enabled everyone in the family to do what they can for our mother. And God was so good. We know that she is now enjoying the place where there’s no pain and suffering but pure joy and the presence of our Almighty. We were not able to go back home but we were given the chance to tell her how much we love her, thank her for her life and assure her that we will be living our lives well.

I will not forget how we had snacks one time she visited me in my office. That was probably more than 10 years ago. It was unusual to spend time together during office hours but I am glad we did because most of the time we see each other with everyone else around. I thank her for all the time and effort she made for me and my family. I will always remember how she looked after us whenever there’s an event or occasion. She always made sure that we have seats, choicest food and most of all my kids were treated well.

During our light moments, mother in-law would always share so many stories about my husband when he was young. It made me feel and see how my husband’s childhood was like. She even gave me my husband’s baby shoes and a toy that we let Adrian play with but unfortunately I was not able to keep. I wish I could at least have taken a photo of those (no phone cameras and selfies yet that time). I have so many things to be grateful for her life but the best legacy given to me was giving birth to my husband and raising him to be a fine, gentle and loving person.

Nanay, you are forever in our hearts.

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 Nanay Lydia with her granddaughters (Greenbelt Makati City 2005)